House For Six

31 Days of Life Simplified, Day 14: Frustrations & Working In Smaller Chunks

Deme Crinion4 Comments
Man.  Every time I get a wave of motivation it seems that life just slaps me right back on the couch.  I'm not complaining.  Truly.  I just think we've all been there - geared up, ready to jump in...and then the reality smack.  You know the one.  The "you can not do everything" back hand in the form of some poo hitting the fan, the stress bomb exploding, or your body calling it quits.

I haven't shared too much about this pregnancy on the blog, because (based on some comments and looks we've received in lieu of baby #4) people tend to make a lot of assumptions about this pregnancy.  I think I've been a little defensive and protective of us as a result.  I don't have the need to justify our family, but I think it's also kept me from sharing part of our family's life that I normally would here on the blog.

So, here's a start.  I've mentioned that we weren't sure our family would grow anymore after Jack, and that's partly due to a back injury (two degenerative disks and one bulging disk from a tear) coupled with an umbilical hernia (at the belly button), which was surgically repaired after I had Jack.  The back issues have been with me for all the pregnancies and were mostly kept in check thanks to some physical therapy.  But the mesh hernia repair = new territory.

Some doctors won't do the repair until you're sure you are done having kids and others don't see follow-on pregnancy as problematic at all.  If you visit any online discussion boards about pregnancy after hernia repair, you will get the whole gamut.....from "I had no issues" to "I was in excruciating pain with all sorts of horrific complications".  The truth is that we just didn't know how another pregnancy would affect my body.  Fortunately, my doctor has had several patients with this same issue and all successful births.....she just told me to "expect some discomfort".

Until about a week ago I was doing a premature little happy dance thinking I might actually be in the clear, but hello 3rd trimester and large belly.  The "discomfort" has arrived.  Sometimes worse than others and mostly after a really active/busy day. 

What does that have to do with closets?  Oh, right.  I knew that if I was going to have issues, it would probably be in later pregnancy, so we deemed this month as the "get the house ready before I can't do anything" month.  It seems we were just a couple weeks late on hitting that mark.  There was no way my body was having a closet clean-out sesh today.

My body telling me enough, doesn't mean I can't do anything.  It just means I have to prioritize....which for now is getting food in my family's tummies and attempting to give them some sort of education....and I need to tackle things in much smaller chunks.

Sure, I could give myself a nice pep talk and get pumped to tackle the closet tomorrow.  But you know what's going to happen?  I'm going to get the kids breakfast, probably get through 2/3 of our homeschool schedule and then need to plop my body down someplace.  Because who knows if making lunch might do me in.

And you know what?  It's OK.  Slowing down to take care of myself and this baby is OK.  It doesn't mean I have to abandon all plans to address the areas that are driving us crazy, but it does mean a different approach and letting people help.  #saysthecontrolfreak

So, here's a genius idea.  I'm going to have the kids help me with the closet.  It occurred to me that they are skilled in the art of taking out all the things and leaving them everywhere, so why not give them a new zone to destroy?  Emptying out this closet will no doubt create the mother of all messes. So, I'll do a little directing but let them do the work, and they'll think it's funnest of the fun. James will help with the putting it all back together part.

In all seriousness, they have been great little helpers for me....my husband is a rock star who picks up the slack like no other....we have incredibly generous friends offering all kinds of support....and we just feel really loved.  Loved and thankful that in the big scheme of things, this is simply a little bit of pain.  We have a healthy baby girl and she's not affected by my issues at all.  We'll carry on at a slower pace and let go of the stuff that doesn't need to happen.  I'm always amazed at the gifts that can come from a good God in the midst of our struggles, and this one is no exception.


*This is part of the 31 Day Series of Life Simplified....catch all the posts right here!


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